It’s been a while since I’ve written, but I certainly have not forgotten you. In all honesty, I’ve been taking care of myself following the sudden loss of my son. There are days when my heart feels so heavy that I don’t want to move. But, there are also those days that are blessed with new hope and smiles, and I am most thankful for those days.
I thought it would be appropriate to get back to my story of living with a practicing pedophile so that we can continue to understand a bit more of the mind of a predator, as well to understand much more about what happens to those whose lives are touched by the actions of a predator. Continue reading →
I’ve grown to really dislike the words “married to a pedophile” yet the hard, cold truth is that I was married to a man who molested children. I had no clue. I thought he was genuinely kind. I thought he was a follower of God. I thought that he loved children, but my way of loving children and his way of loving children were worlds apart. Continue reading →
This blog is being written to educate you so that you can educate yourself and your children about child sex abuse. I am telling my story of what it was like being married to a practicing pedophile for almost forty years — and not ever seeing that criminal side of his life. How did that happen? How did I not see? How did others not see?
Rather than see signs of this dark, harmful side of life, others would remark to me time and time again, “He’s the nicest man I know!”
Listen to me carefully. Pedophiles are not the creepy guys hiding behind the bushes in the dark waiting to grab your child. Throw away that perception right now because that’s the furthest thing from the truth!
Instead, think of a person who is loved and adored by family, friends, and community. Think of the person you would least suspect of hurting anyone — especially children! In over 60% of all child sex abuse cases, the molester knows the child! Continue reading →
When I talk about being married almost forty years to a practicing pedophile, I say it with shame. I say those words with horror. I almost always have at least two very bad days of haunting dreams and lots of tears after I write a blog post. Why? Because there is still a part of me that agonizes over the fact that I was duped. I didn’t know the man I was married to for almost four decades! I grieve the fact that this man was so good at deceiving me and others that he got away with molesting children for all of those years!
If you are new to this blog, it’s important for you to begin here. It’s hard to start in the middle of a story and grasp the full impact — especially with a story that is as complicated as this one. As you are reading, take time to pause and allow the words to sink deep into your heart. What you are reading is not just hard to read, but it’s hard to believe.
And pedophiles are counting on just that — making it hard for you to believe that they could ever commit such horrendous acts! Continue reading →