I’ve grown to really dislike the words “married to a pedophile” yet the hard, cold truth is that I was married to a man who molested children. I had no clue. I thought he was genuinely kind. I thought he was a follower of God. I thought that he loved children, but my way of loving children and his way of loving children were worlds apart. The man I married is in prison serving a life sentence because he violated many children many times. If you do not yet know my story, please begin here.
Sadly, my story is not unique. Almost every day I get emails telling me “if I didn’t know better I’d think this was my life you were talking about.”
That’s frightening! It’s frightening to know that pedophiles walk among us pretending to be kind, gentle, loving husbands, fathers, preachers, aunts, uncles, teachers, doctors, lawyers, nurses, and loving parents.
Pedophiles can be anyone — and most often the pedophile is the one you least suspect.
Pedophiles are liars. Pedophiles are deceivers. Pedophiles who molest children commit the most heinous of crimes.
The man I was married to and spent most of my life with was committing those heinous crimes and he would have gotten away with this evil all of his life had it not been for one young lady who was brave enough to speak out.
One person. One voice. One act of courage has saved hellish pain in the lives of many, many children, and for that I will be forever thankful!
Because one person spoke out — and was believed — the authorities were able to do their job and arrest the man I married and expose the evil actions of his heart.
Because a son of this pedophile believed the young lady who came to him and told her story of molestation by his father many, many children have been saved!
Because of the courage of just two people — a victim of abuse from the man I married and the son of the abuser — people are getting educated about how to protect our children from sexual abuse.
I am so ashamed of the fact that I was married for almost forty years to a practicing pedophile and I never knew it! I’m still blown away by the fact that this man had such mind-control over me! They say love is blind, and it is — but it shouldn’t be!
We need to be aware of the fact that even those closest to us are not always who they seem. This sure was the case in my life!
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A few weeks ago, I asked you for some questions that you’d like to see answered. I’ll be starting to answer those next week, as I continue telling this tragic story of my life and the victims who fell at the hands of the man I married.
Jimmy and I will be sharing short educational videos with you often to keep you informed as to what all is happening at Church Protect and letting you know how you can become involved.
Child abuse is among the most horrific of crimes. We see people getting arrested every day for molesting hundreds of children — many of the abusers being church leaders.
What you don’t read about is the lasting impact this type of abuse has on the children of abuse. You’re not hearing about the effects of abuse and how hard the daily struggle is to find the way back from the terrors, the nightmares, the depression, and the feelings of worthlessness that children of abuse must deal with on a daily basis.
Child abuse must stop! We must be well educated. We must learn how to be a voice for all children. We must learn how to help and support all victims of child abuse!
And, we will. Together we will grow strong. Together we will move forward. Together, with God’s help and direction, we will be a voice that will be heard around the world for our children!
Thank you! Thank you for reading. Thank you for listening. Thank you for sharing this blog and this video. Thank you for helping our children!
We are making a difference, and as we grow in numbers and courage we will become the mighty force we were intended to be in order to protect our children!
*Jimmy and I conduct workshops together. I do not know of another mother and son team educating others about child sexual abuse who have actually lived with the abuser. Our information is unique and real. We’ve lived this tragedy and we can share insights that you will not hear anywhere else! If you are interested in a workshop, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.