Why? How? When? I thought I knew my husband! These are all of the things that go through a wife’s head when she finds out “for certain” that her husband has been molesting children. At least that’s what went through my head initially. And, guess what? It’s now been five years plus some since I’ve known, and there are still times I cry and want to scream, “I can’t believe this! I don’t want to believe this!” But, I do….I do believe. It’s true. It’s real. The man I shared my life with molested innocent, precious children. And, he did it while married to me.
The interest on my last blog post skyrocketed to well over ten thousand readers! Why? Because it’s hard to think that such evil exists, yet the truth is that right now — today — many children are living in the hellish fear and torment of sexual abuse. I am grateful to every one that reads this blog and shares this information with others. We must continue to be a voice for our children!
I’m back after a three month break while finishing up writing my book on finding hope after child loss. If you know of anyone who has experienced the loss of a child, please give them a copy of the book. Part of our mission is to help people who are suffering, and this book will help any parent who is suffering the pain of child loss.
This weekend I had the blessing of attending a conference on child sexual abuse. I wish I could say that it was enjoyable, but quite the contrary. While at this conference, I had the opportunity to hear two survivors of child sexual abuse speak out and I must say that upon hearing what they endured as children, and what they are enduring now as adults, I could feel my heart literally breaking.
So many people are under the false belief that once a molester has been caught and justice has been served, that the abused ones no longer feel the effects of childhood abuse. This is one of the biggest misconceptions that society has about abuse victims, and it’s time to get educated about what really happens after a predator is found guilty.
Having lived with the mental abuse of a manipulative sociopath predator, I can tell you that there are long-term effects — the most difficult is that of trust. But, this particular story is not about me. This is the continuing story of a father of abused children who has willingly chosen to speak out so that others might be saved from the trauma and pain he and his family are still experiencing.
The last post I wrote was powerful. It was also sad and heart wrenching. It brought me and thousands of others to tears as we read the words of a father speak out about how his children were abused by the man I called my husband for almost forty years. I haven’t slept a night through since this story was published. Why? Because I still find it so dehumanizing to think of what pedophiles do to children, and it is heartbreaking to me to know that this type of abuse goes on day after day while good, honest, caring parents are unable to recognize the abuse. We must get better educated!